When I learned what happened to Dr. Mohamed Taranissi, I said "Oops! hya elnafsa
na weselt Britain kaman?". The famous fertility doctor was envied by his rivals for having the best success rate in treating his patients and for being the wealthiest British doctor (his fortune is estimated to reach 38 million sterling). He is currently facing a fierce war by the British media and HFEA. [read details]
na weselt Britain kaman?". The famous fertility doctor was envied by his rivals for having the best success rate in treating his patients and for being the wealthiest British doctor (his fortune is estimated to reach 38 million sterling). He is currently facing a fierce war by the British media and HFEA. [read details] I used to think that a successful person will face such wars enflamed by jealousy and envy (elnafsanah) only in our societies, where he/she is considered to be odd. I myself fell several times as a victim of unwelcoming working environments because of my hard work, enthus
iam and their consequence: success and popularity. Nonetheless, I was deprived of fully enjoying my success because of this Nafsanah. I was forced to enter into those trivial conflicts with colleagues as if success was a crime. And I had to untangle myself all the way while doing my job, which took much unneeded effort and time.
A Close Look at the Envious Co-worker (Elmenafsen/a):
He/she feels an urge to bring you down. I even told one of them "Does it feel itchy in the morning that it makes you decide to dedicate your day for ruining mine?". But they can't help it. The mere presence of a creative and energetic person among a bunch of menafseneen makes the whole place uncomfortable. Being just there kedda makes them furious. Cause now they will face competition. There is constant reminder that they are less talented and having limited abilities. And suddenly a sense of humour becomes not enough to win the boss. The boss is praising the one who is "less sociable" but more hard working. There is this wall that prevents envious co-workers from liking their successful colleague, even if he/she is extremely nice. It costs a lot of effort to try improving themselves to match his/her caliber, but hatred and jealousy cost nothing.
Moreover, you can contribute into making them worse persons without knowing. The jealousy you spark inside elmenafsen/a will keep growing as your success continues and this will force him/her to use fierce defence. It's like "I won't wait here and watch you making
me smaller". And here starts the mechanism of denial (I'm doing my best, this person is just abnormal), then making a defence plan, and finally launching an attack. The defence plan can be as evil as it can get, as long as it is for the sake of defence. The end justifies the means ya3ni. A small rumour can be a good subject for chat as well as forming teams against you. A big lie is even better and can find its way to upper management. Giving negative explanations to your actions can change your image in the office. Anything that makes this envoius person feel he/she is doing something to stop you, instead of merely watching, will make him/her feel better.
It's War
Once the hidden minor conflicts raise to the level of an organised campaign, it's war; mainly a psychological one. You either face it or retreat. Many people finding themselves in this situation have decided to retreat; not out of weakness, but because of lack of harmony and cooperation in their work place. Others got exhausted of battling over trvialities. However, those who stood up and faught till the end are much fewer than you imagine. Watch out friends!
iam and their consequence: success and popularity. Nonetheless, I was deprived of fully enjoying my success because of this Nafsanah. I was forced to enter into those trivial conflicts with colleagues as if success was a crime. And I had to untangle myself all the way while doing my job, which took much unneeded effort and time.A Close Look at the Envious Co-worker (Elmenafsen/a):
He/she feels an urge to bring you down. I even told one of them "Does it feel itchy in the morning that it makes you decide to dedicate your day for ruining mine?". But they can't help it. The mere presence of a creative and energetic person among a bunch of menafseneen makes the whole place uncomfortable. Being just there kedda makes them furious. Cause now they will face competition. There is constant reminder that they are less talented and having limited abilities. And suddenly a sense of humour becomes not enough to win the boss. The boss is praising the one who is "less sociable" but more hard working. There is this wall that prevents envious co-workers from liking their successful colleague, even if he/she is extremely nice. It costs a lot of effort to try improving themselves to match his/her caliber, but hatred and jealousy cost nothing.
Moreover, you can contribute into making them worse persons without knowing. The jealousy you spark inside elmenafsen/a will keep growing as your success continues and this will force him/her to use fierce defence. It's like "I won't wait here and watch you making
me smaller". And here starts the mechanism of denial (I'm doing my best, this person is just abnormal), then making a defence plan, and finally launching an attack. The defence plan can be as evil as it can get, as long as it is for the sake of defence. The end justifies the means ya3ni. A small rumour can be a good subject for chat as well as forming teams against you. A big lie is even better and can find its way to upper management. Giving negative explanations to your actions can change your image in the office. Anything that makes this envoius person feel he/she is doing something to stop you, instead of merely watching, will make him/her feel better.It's War
Once the hidden minor conflicts raise to the level of an organised campaign, it's war; mainly a psychological one. You either face it or retreat. Many people finding themselves in this situation have decided to retreat; not out of weakness, but because of lack of harmony and cooperation in their work place. Others got exhausted of battling over trvialities. However, those who stood up and faught till the end are much fewer than you imagine. Watch out friends!
6 comments:
Nice subject. El-Nafsanah ofcourse is a lovely habit favored to many ppl in our beloved Egypt and, surprizingly, in the UK as you have argued! Analysing El-Nafsanah in more detailed way, I would say that it is basically a cultural issue which is highly attached to societies lacking effecient management systems, through which they can manage their political, economic, societal and cultural resources in a proper way. Hence, they would end up falling in the underdevelopment and poverty dilemma. Poverty would cover both material & spiritual levels alike. These scoieties wouldn't have tolerance for neither success nor disagreement. The common attributes of these socities would extend to include the absence of hard-work and excellence cultures, where all ppl should be equal, not in rights and duties, but in talent and success.
That's why I can't understand how this epidemic has reached the UK? We can say whatever we want abt the whole west,i.e. they are imperials, morally and religiously perverted, etc. But it was setteled in minds that they give equal opportunities to all ppl in a 'survival for the fittist' environment.
Moreover, allow me to disagree with u on another thing. The article hasn't decided plainly that Dr. Taranissi was proved 2 be not-guilty. What you have mentioned were the opinions of his supporters which are not unquestionably the factual true. Walla eh ya Om Luji?
Finally, I am afraid that some people will consider this issue as a new episode in the "War on Islam" series, which will add more to the crisis of the Muslim mind's distraction.
Salama Moussa:
Missed your comments. I agree with all what you said about the political and social situations which foster absence of competition and will for development.
I also share your worries about Dr. Taranissi's issue turning into an episode in the presumable war on Islam. People may forget the huge success he enjoyed which enabled him to acquire extreme fame and wealth (masha2allah) to jump into the problem he is facing now. They may also forget that he is receiving huge support from his former patients, who are of course British.
I myself can not be 100% that he is not guilty. But I raise the argument of what if the theory of his supporters is true? Then Nafsanah will be guilty. Walla eh ya Salama?
Wanna hear from you always.
Just so i understand, the episode that happened\is happening to you is in Egypt or in the UK (since you mentioned the UK)?
Ya Fadfadation you are a careful reader! In Egypt of course.
Can't say I'm surprised. Welcome to the planet!! Can you remember back when people commended a job well done rather than wished you instantaneous death.
Juka, I still live in denial, up till now. I can't believe people can't handle a decent competition at work. Every time I say I'll start a new page only to find out that people are all the same.
Seems your luck has not been better than mine.
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